I don’t usually draw attention to my birthday, but as I get older, I’ve decided to. I got a message on Facebook a few days ago, reminding me that my birthday is coming up (like I don’t know that. I mean, who forgets?) and asking me if I wanted to set up a fund raiser. I don’t. There are a variety of reasons for this, but mostly I feel that exploiting my birthday to raise money for something, is rude. I could pass it off as being altruistic, but it’s really a way to draw attention to how thoughtful I am. I’m already thoughtful. I do things for people all the time. I don’t have to set up a cheering section for myself. I also don’t want my friends to feel obligated to contribute.

Also, and less altruistic of me, it’s my birthday. Therefore, it’s all about me. It’s the one day a year that I get to be selfish and self-centered. Other days I’m wife and mother. I’m doing things for my family. On my birthday, they do things for me. I get a meal, gifts and the show of affection that isn’t always present. I know they love me, and I love them. But we all know that we tend to take our friends and family for granted. We don’t mean to, but we do.

Instead of a fund raiser, or any other big show to draw attention to myself, I ask this of you. Give the people you love the most a hug. Tell them how much you care about them. Let them know they mean a lot to you — not just on their birthday, but every day.


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